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God’s ‘Flower Power’ Brings Healing in our lives

Nov 23 2025 A ‘Flower Power’ Healing Sermon: Answering Our Healing Prayers Before we Call

Isaiah 65:17-25 NIV

By Rev Dr Ed Hird

By Vincent van Gogh – National Gallery (NG3863), London, Public Domain, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=151970

https://youtu.be/HXpvFIy_RPk?si=jh7FA8R9F5VeJi2n

As you may know, Bishop Peter and I were converted during the Jesus movement. Peter was a real hippy, an Australian flower child. I was a wanna-be, influenced like many teenagers by that Haight-Asbury culture. You may remember the two-finger symbol of the hippie movement, the peace sign.  In Christian Ashram movement, we have the three-finger symbol, meaning Jesus is Lord! Christ is King of Kings and Lord of Lords!

How many of you have ever watched the blockbuster movies Jesus Christ Superstar or Godspell? We loved seeing Jesus portrayed asa flower power hippie. You may not know that Stephen Swartz, who wrote the Godspell music and lyrics, was Jewish.  Talking about Jesus for many Jewish people is very edgy. It may feel to some like eating pork or secretly viewing pornography. But during the Jesus Movement, many Jews discovered the Flower Power Jesus, and became filled with the Holy Spirit, the Ruach Ha Kodesh.  There are now over a million Jewish people worldwide who have accepted Jesus, Yeshua, even in Israel, where there are flourishing messianic synagogues.  Messianic testimonies done in Hebrew and English are now being secretly watched on YouTube by millions of Israelis. This has never happened before. As the bible says in Romans 11:26, one day All Israel will be saved. The veil will be removed. The unthinkable will become thinkable. When I meet a Jewish person who loves Jesus, this gives me hope even for Anglicans that God will remove the veil. That is what he did for me as an Anglican in the Jesus movement.

Flowers have become popular for Jewish people through their time in Holland, the flower capital of the world. After the Holocaust which killed 75% of the Dutch Jews (think Corrie Ten Boom’s Hiding Place movie), some Dutch Jews relocated in Israel. The nation of Israel now exports 1.5 billion flower stems particularly to Europe in the winter, bringing two hundred million dollars per year. God is literally making the deserts of Israel bloom since Israel was reborn in 1948. Isaiah 35:1-2 comments: “The desert and the parched land will be glad; the wilderness will rejoice and blossom. Like the crocus, it will burst into bloom; it will rejoice greatly and shout for joy.” Israel has even discovered how to pipe desalinated Mediterranean water into the Sea of Galilee so that the flowers will keep blooming. How many today want your deserts to bloom?

Today I am preaching about God’s healing flower power. You may have to forgive me, but my sermon will be more flowery than usual. In my forty-five years of sermons, I have never preached about flowers. 

I will be using flowers today as a metaphor for the healing power of the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit is not literally fire, rain, wind, or a dove, but those are accurate metaphors of how the Holy Spirit acts in our lives. How many have ever thought of the Holy Spirit metaphorically as like a flower?  God gives the blessing of the Holy Spirit before we even ask. All we need to do is accept the gift, the bouquet by faith with thanksgiving. The famous painter Monet said: ““I must have flowers, always, and always.”

How many of you, by the way, have any Dutch heritage? Did you know that the Netherland’s #1 export is flowers? As the flower capital of the world with its massive greenhouses, it produces 50% of the world’s flowers. Have any of you, by the way, ever been to the Skagit Valley Tulip Festival in LaConner, Washington State? It is like a little Holland, attracting almost half a million people who spend up to 83 million dollars each year on tulips. Talk about flower power!

The term ‘flower power’ came from Beatnik poet Allen Ginsberg in 1965, who advocated putting flowers in Berkley California to the rifle barrels of the military police during antiwar Vietnam rallies. They also gave flowers to the Hell’s Angels who really hated the hippies.  In May 1967, Abbie Hoffman, founder of the Yippies and author of Steal This Book, organized a flower brigade in New York City, saying “The cry of flower power echoes through the land. We hall not wilt. Let a thousand flowers bloom. “

Flower power reached its peak during the 1967 Summer of Love in San Francisco when hippies like Bishop Peter became known as flower children, wearing flowers in their hair, like in the Godspell movie. How many of you remember the hit song by the Mamas & the Papas where they sang: “”If you’re going to San Francisco, be sure to wear some flowers in your hair?”  Bishop Peter, did you ever wear clothes embroidered with flowers? When the Beatles embrace the flower power message in their albums and their 1968 Yellow Submarine movie, it spread quickly, even to Perth Australia.

As Larry Norman said, the Beatles sang ‘All You Need is Love’, but then they broke up. The world’s ’love and peace’ flower power sounds good but it doesn’t really work.

Today I want to honour all those here from the Semiahmoo South Surrey Coalition who peacefully and lovingly said no to hard drug housing in our local neighbourhood.  You proved that grassroots ‘flower power’ can make a real difference in the face of powerful, impersonal bureaucracies.  Thank you again.

Today is our annual All Saints’ healing service. What does bring healing and recovery is not free government hard drugs but rather the power of the Holy Spirit as mentioned in Ephesians 5:18 “Don’t be drunk with wine (or stoned) which leads to dissipation but instead be filled with the Holy Spirit.” Any one who has received Jesus has the Holy Spirit living within them, but we can easily quench, grieve, resist, and vex the Holy Spirit through our unwillingness to surrender our wills.

 The term ‘power’ in the New Testament is usually short-hand for the power of the Holy Spirit. Think of the resurrected Jesus in Acts 1:8 saying “You shall receive power when the Holy Spirit comes upon you..”  Think of Jesus before his ascension in Luke 24, saying “Wait in Jerusalem until the power from on high comes upon you.” Bill W. in AA’s 12 Steps referred again and again to ‘powerless’ vs power coming through letting go and surrender.  Bill W.’s higher power was the Holy Spirit after he was led to Christ by the Anglican pastor Sam Shoemaker.  If you want to have ‘flower power’ healing today, you need to surrender to and receive the power of the Holy Spirit.

To quote Song of Solomon 2:1, you need Jesus the lily of the valley, the rose of Sharon in your heart. You may not ever have thought of Jesus as a flower, metaphorically speaking. 😉

Have you ever been to a funeral or celebration of life where there are no flowers?  Flowers often symbolize death and endings.  Flowers help us grieve and heal. Flowers are strongly connected with key transitions, births, graduations, weddings and funerals, what is sometimes called hatched, matched and dispatched. At such events, flowers are often sovereignly, even unexpectedly given to us, even before we ask. That is how God’s healing flower power works, before we even ask. Today God may answer your prayer before you even ask.

The Kingdom of God is all about the already/not yet, the future breaking into the present, every time we pray for healing for the sick. Healing is like God giving you a bouquet of flowers. Healing is part of our Kingdom inheritance. God is the healer, Jehovah Rapha.  We are the receivers.  An inheritance is only as good as your willingness to receive it by faith with thanksgiving. John 1:12 talks about those who receive Jesus and his unshakable Kingdom.  If you refuse the flowers God is offering you today, it won’t do you any good.

IN vs 17, God says: See, I will create new heavens and a new earth. The former things will not be remembered, nor will they come to mind.

Revelation 21:1 quotes Isaiah 65 vs 17 saying “Then I saw ‘a new heaven and a new earth’ for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away, and there was no longer any sea.’  This is not the same old, same old. The Hebrew word here for ‘new’ is Hadassah, meaning renewal and restoration. Some of you may remember the world-famous Hadassah Jewish bazaars which raised money for the poor in Israel.

Vs 17 is telling us that our world and minds will be so renewed by God that our often traumatic memories will no longer haunt us. They won’t even come to mind. This is God’s healing flower power. How many of you would like Jesus to heal a painful memory today? You can come up at the end of this sermon and get a breakthrough. 

Let me ask you: Do you think that there be flowers in the new heavens and new earth? Can you imagine life without flowers? Will there be flowers in hell? Only plastic ones 😉

 Why do so many women love flowers so much? The women in our walking group told me that it is about the colour, the beauty, the smell and the touch. 

Let me ask the women a question: do you prefer cut flowers or live flowers in pots or gardens. What is one of your most meaningful, memorable experience of receiving a flower?

You may have been through some real hard patches in your life. Do I hear any Amens?  The desert times in your past does not determine your future blooming. Those who sow in tears will reap with songs of joy.

As God’s new creation, we are no longer prisoners of our past; rather as Zechariah 9:12 puts it, we are prisoners of hope. God’s destiny for us that that we blossom into greater and greater Christlikeness. Jesus is the ultimate ‘flower child’ in the power of the Holy Spirit.

Many of us struggle with negativity. Some of us as half-empty cup people tend to focus more on the thorns and weeds than the flowers. Some people could be given an entire field of roses and see only the thorns.

A friend in our last church resented someone else for being healed of cancer because they hadn’t had their own healing yet. Are you willing to celebrate the flowers of someone else’s healing while you are still experiencing the thorns, weeds, and sickness in your own life? Can you give God your bitterness today and receive his healing flower power?

We all need God’s Kingdom flower power. Song of Solomon 2:12 states, “Flowers appear on the earth; the season of singing has come, the cooing of doves is heard in our land.” Would you like some flowers, some blessings, to appear in your life in this healing service?

Where does your prayer life need to blossom, to bloom, to flourish? Blossom, bloom, and Flourish, by the way, literally mean to flower. Do you need more healing to spring forth in your life ? CS Lewis said: “Think of yourself just as a seed patiently wintering in the earth, waiting to come up a flower in the Gardener’s good time, up into the real world, the real waking.”

How many of you are gardeners?  John 15:1 says that my Father’s the gardener, I often say that during doorknocking when I meet someone working on their flowers. Let me ask you: Those of you who love gardening, how often do you water your flowers? What hydrates your soul and makes you flourish? What kind of fertilizer do you need to be healthy? What kinds of weeds need to be removed from your spiritual garden?

Luke 5:17 says of Jesus: “the power of the Lord was with him to heal.”

Metaphorically, we might say that Jesus healed people with flower power, the power of the Holy Spirit:

Luke 5:30 says:  “Jesus, perceiving in himself that power had gone out from him, immediately turned about in the crowd and said, ‘Who touched my garments?’”

Luke 6:19 says of Jesus:

“The whole crowd was trying to touch him, because power was coming out from him and healing them all.” 

Acts 10:37-38  says that “God anointed Jesus of Nazareth with the Holy Spirit and with power and how he went about doing good and healing all who were under the tyranny of the devil, because God was with him.” 

The Bible also compares us to flowers. Has anyone ever told you to bloom where you are planted, a good message for restless church-hoppers? Psalm 103:15-16 states, “The life of mortals is like grass, they flourish like a flower of the field; the wind blows over it and it is gone, and its place remembers it no more“.  1 Peter 1:24, quoting Isaiah 40: 6-8, says, “For all flesh is like grass, and all its glory like the flowers of the field. The grass withers and the flowers fall

Jesus in Luke 12:27 said “Consider how the wild flowers grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you, not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these.”

Each of you are more beautiful than wild flowers. One of the beautiful flowers are sunflowers, would you agree? Sunflowers are symbols of God’s flower power, of his healing light.

How many of you have ever enjoyed eating sunflower seeds? They’re native to the Americas, as far back as 3000 BCE, when they were developed for food, medicine, dye, and oil. The Cherokee utilized an infusion of sunflower leaves to treat kidneys while the Dakota brought it out to sooth “chest pain and pulmonary troubles.” God wants to use his sunflower power to bring healing today to your heart.

It was the Spanish who brought Sunflowers back to Europe. Then they were brought to Russia by the Russian royalty. Sunflower seed oil was somehow not banned during Lent, unlike the other oils the Russian Orthodox Church banned its patrons from consuming. As a result, by the 19th century, Russia was planting two million acres of sunflowers every year.

Did you know that the Sunflower is Ukraine’s national flower? Canadian Mennonites who used to live in Ukraine, grow massive fields of sunflowers. Sunflower seeds are the Mennonite favorite snack, instead of drinking beer.

The sunflower tracks the sun, following it wherever it goes. God wants us to be devoted loyal sunflowers that consistently turns our eyes and hearts towards the Son of God, Jesus our messiah.

My younger sister and my late Mother Lorna, who was one of the founding pioneers at All Saints, loved gardening, especially their Sunflowers. Sunflowers aren’t just beautiful. Their roots absorb heavy metals and toxic radiation from the soil, in a process called phytoremediation. Sunflowers are symbols of healing and cleansing. Millions of sunflowers have been effectively used in cleansing the soil around the Chernobyl nuclear disaster and the Japanese Fuchoshima nuclear disaster, absorbing sezium and strontium from the ground. What kind of toxicities and emotional poisons do you want Jesus our sunflower to remove from your soil today?

If anyone understood flower power, it was Vincent Van Gogh.  He loved to paint sunflowers as a symbol of God’s glory. He said, “If you truly love nature, you will find beauty everywhere.” The Japanese love Van Gogh. On March 30, 1987, Japanese insurance magnate Yasuo Goto paid the equivalent of US$39,921,750 for van Gogh’s Still Life: Vase with Fifteen Sunflowers at auction at Christie’s London, at the time a record-setting amount for a work of art.  Over a billion dollars has been spent purchasing paintings by Van Gogh; yet, he chose to live in poverty to reach the very poor for Christ.

As a pastor’s son, Van Gogh worked as an evangelist in a miserably poor mining district in Belgium. There, he gave away everything to the poor miners, and soon looked dirt poor. His church officials fired him for this indiscretion. He strongly identified with the suffering servant of Isaiah 53. He said, “Christ lived as an artist, greater than other artists. Jesus made living, human beings.” Picasso would call Van Gogh “the father of us all”, seeing him as his main inspiration,

Of his 900 paintings, Van Gogh sold only a few. He sadly took his own life at age 37, seeing himself as a failure as a painter. After he died, friends brought sunflowers with them to his funeral.

Many people don’t realize that as a pastor’s son, he evangelized people through his colourful yellow paintings. He loved the colour yellow so much that he even nibbled on yellow paint. Don’t try this at home. The lead and cadmium poisoning may have been why he cut off his ear.  

A painting for Van Gogh is a sort of a gospel.

Vs 20 tells us that when God’s flower power breaks in, people are generally healthier and live longer, even till 100 years old. Have you noticed how drugs, alcohol, and smoking prematurely age us and shorten our lives? How many of you would like God, as Psalm 103:5 says, to renew your youth today like an eagle?  How many want God to renew your strength, so that you will soar on wings like eagles, that you will run and not grow weary, that you will walk and not be faint? Jesus will cause our lives to flower when we surrender our will to Him.

In Vs. 24, God says: “Before they call, I will answer; while they are still speaking I will hear.”

This is a classic Eugene Peterson verse; God heals sovereignly before we even call, while we are still speaking. God is offering his healing flowers to us. We don’t have to twist God’s arm to heal us. God’s will is to heal us.  All of us as believers will one day be promoted to glory, the ultimate healing.

Who today want a healing touch from God’s flower power? Let us pray.


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Forgetting Valentine’s Day…

By the Rev. Dr. Ed Hird

 

Valentine’s Day rolls around every year without fail.  Husbands forget Feb 14th at their peril.  Somehow our wives interpret our forgetting Valentine’s Day as a sign that we don’t care, that we may be putting other priorities like work and sports above them.  So, husbands, be warned.  Flowers are much cheaper than lawyers.

After almost forty-five years of marriage, I love my wife more now than I have ever loved her.  To celebrate our 30th Anniversary, we flew to England to visit with our youngest son, serving then as a youth missionary in Newcastle.  It is an amazing gift to be married to someone whom you really like to be with.  My wife has been that gift to me.  She has been so loyal in supporting our 31-year ministry at St. Simon’s North Vancouver from 1987 to 2018.  That is why I dedicated my book ‘Battle for the Soul of Canada’ “with gratitude to my dear wife who has been married to me for almost thirty years, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part.”  You can imagine that it is not easy to be married to a clergyman, especially with the challenges that faithful Anglicans have been facing in North America.

My wife served for decades as our St. Simon’s NV Music Director, co-ordinating several different choirs and contemporary worship bands.  Archbishop David Somerville, who first ordained me, once said that if the devil ever gets into the church, he will come in through the choir.  Because music is so closely connected to worship, it makes sense why music can easily be contentious.  Sometimes people have worship wars over contemporary songs vs. traditional hymns.  At St. Simon’s NV, we decided in 1996 to honour both expressions by offering both a traditional 9am BCP service and a contemporary 10:30am service.  Because my dear wife is musically bilingual, she was able to encourage both expressions with integrity.  Unlike many church choir directors who are always quitting and creating havoc, my dear wife was a source of musical stability for over two decades.  Dynamic music is a key to a vibrant, healthy Church.

My wife and  I went to Winston Churchill High School in Vancouver, both graduating forty-eight years ago in 1972.  But we only really noticed each other from a distance.  We became friends while taking the bus home from the University of British Columbia.  She was in Music naturally, and I was in Social Work, dreaming about becoming an Anglican priest.  For around a year, we were only good friends.  But eventually the penny dropped and I saw the light.  My wife really impressed me with her great listening skills, her good sense of humour, and her hard work.

 

Finally one day in 1975, I invited her to go bike-riding to Little Mountain in Vancouver.  The rest is history.  Coming back from our second bike ride, I said to her, “Don’t take me too seriously, but relative to two days, I would like to spend the rest of my life with you.”  For some reason, this shocked her.  But she got over it, and we quickly moved to become engaged.  When I introduced her to my mother, my mom said something that she had never said before: “The woman who marries Ed will need to have quarters for the bus”.  What she meant is that while I have strong leadership giftings, I work best when I am complimented by someone with strong administrative giftings, who pays attention to the details.

In my first Valentine’s Day article for the Deep Cove Crier over three decades ago, I wrote: “Why do I still enjoy Valentines Day?  It’s because all of us have a need to feel loved, even when you’re married.  So often romantic love can fade imperceptibly from a marriage.  In the busyness of children, work, school and sports, our marriage can easily get lost in the shuffle.  Marriage Counselors tell us that romantic love is one of the greatest lacks in modern marriages.  The bible reminds each husband to love his wife as his own body, to love his wife as he loves himself, to love his wife just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her (Ephesians 5).

Husbands, let’s surprise our wives on February 14th and make our family homes the most romantic spot on Planet Earth!”

 

The Rev. Dr. Ed Hird, BSW, MDiv, DMin

-award-winning author of the book Battle for the Soul of Canada

-previously published in the Deep Cove Crier/North Shore News

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-The sequel book Restoring Health: body, mind and spirit is available online with Amazon.com in both paperback and ebook form.  Dr. JI Packer wrote the foreword, saying “I heartily commend what he has written.” The book focuses on strengthening a new generation of healthy leaders. Drawing on examples from Titus’ healthy leadership in the pirate island of Crete, it shows how we can embrace a holistically healthy life.

In Canada, Amazon.ca has the book available in paperback and ebook. It is also posted on Amazon UK (paperback and ebook), Amazon France (paperback and ebook), and Amazon Germany (paperback and ebook).

Restoring Health is also available online on Barnes and Noble in both paperback and Nook/ebook form.  Nook gives a sample of the book to read online.

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Catharine Parr Traill: Pioneer Canadian Mother

By the Rev. Dr.  Ed Hird

Catharine Parr Traill was a pioneer Canadian mother who made a phenomenal impact on the life of our nation.

England in the early 1830s was caught in a Canada-mania.  In the aftermath of the Napoleonic wars, England was thrown into an economic depression.  Thomas Strickland, the father of Catherine Parr Traill, was caught in the economic downturn, resulting in near-bankruptcy and his premature death.  He left behind an impoverished widow and six unmarried daughters whose chances of marriage were seriously limited.

Both Catherine Parr Traill and her sister Susanna married economically-challenged Scottish soldiers who were offered land grants in the colonies.  Canada began to be seen as the land of milk and honey!  Altogether 655,747 people sailed away from British shores between 1831 and 1841 (almost three times as many as had moved abroad during the previous ten years).

The two key Canada-promoters William Cattermole and Captain Charles Stuart were being paid so much per head for every Brit that they could recruit for Canada.  In their glowing description of Canada, Cattermole and Stuart forgot to mention the backbreaking work required to clear the forests, the total absence of household comforts, the aching loneliness, and the grinding poverty of most early Canadian pioneers.  Catharine Parr Traill and her sister Susanna, being gifted writers, were able to record a vital part of our Canadian pioneering history.  In Catherine Parr Traill’s book ‘The Canadian Settler’s Guide’, she insightfully wrote:

“In cases of emergency, it is folly to fold up one’s hands and sit down to bewail in abject terror: it is better to be up and doing.”

Catharine’s book The Backwoods of Canada quickly sold its first printing of eleven thousand copies, being translated into German in 1838 and French in 1843.

Of the six Strickland daughters including Catherine, five of them became published authors!  Catharine’s older sister Agnes in England was the leading royal biographer of the 19th century.  Sister Agnes caustically commented: “Who in England thinks anything of Canada?” and “Nothing that is first published in Canada will sell well in England”.

 In Charlotte Grey’s book Sisters in the Wilderness, Catharine Parr Traill and her sister Susanna are described as laying “the foundation of a literary tradition that still endures in Canada: the pioneer woman who displays extraordinary courage, resourcefulness and humour.  This ‘Canadian character type’, as critic Elizabeth Thompson calls her, is a pragmatist who discovers her own strength as she overcomes adversity.”  Sir Sandford Fleming, inventor of one-hour time zones, and the engineering genius behind the Canadian Pacific Railway, said of Catharine: “She has rendered service of no ordinary kind in making known the advantages offered by Canada as a field for settlement, and by her very widely read writings she has been instrumental in inducing very many emigrants from the United Kingdom to find homes in the Dominion.”

Catharine Parr Trail had a remarkable ability to rise above adversity and make the best of every situation.  Charlotte Grey: writes in her book about ‘the stamina, talent and determination that allowed two English ladies to overcome the hardships of pioneer life and leave a powerful legacy to Canadian culture.’  It is hard for us almost two hundred years later to fully imagine the miseries of hunger, disease, cold, and disappointment faced by our early Canadian pioneers.  I was shocked to discover that both Catharine and her sister’s families came down with malaria, a widespread problem in Canada as pioneers were struggling to drain mosquito-infested swamps.

Catharine Parr Traill commented in the early days: “I have not seen a woman except those in our company for over five months….”  As Charlotte Grey put it, “Being wrenched from one’s homeland leaves deep scars in the psyche of every emigrant in any era:  Susanna and Catharine bore these scars for the rest of their lives.”

Catharine’s motto was ‘Hope! Resolution! And Perseverance!’.  She would assure her relatives back home that Canada is the ‘land of hope.’ Her sister Sarah spoke of Catherine/Kate: “Her blue eyes always sparkled with happiness and curiosity about the world.  She had a warm smile and an air of stolid contentment, and even as a baby, Catharine ‘never cried like other children –indeed we used to say that Katie never saw a sorrowful day – for if anything went wrong, she just shut her eyes and the tears fell from under the long lashes and rolled down her cheeks like pearls into her lap.  We all adored her.”

 Charlotte Grey commented how Catharine loved “the wild and picturesque rocks, trees, hill and valley, wild-flowers, ferns, shrubs and moss and the pure, sweet scent of pines over all, breathing health and strength.”  Nature, for Catharine, was saturated with divine meaning – its splendor and concord displayed the authority and goodness of its Creator.  That is why Catharine wrote many “books that reflected sheer love of nature’s bounty and admiration in God’s handiwork.”  The flowers of the field, for her, were good reminders of the teachings of Christ.  Catherine often illustrated her dried specimens with biblical quotes, particularly from the Psalms or the book of Revelation.

Charlotte Grey commented that in future years, Catharine would rely on her love of nature, the beauties of which she saw as the expression of God’s will, to carry her through one disaster after another:
“Strength was always given to me when it was needed.” As she dug and weeded in the kitchen garden, or lifted heavy cast-iron pans of porridge from the stove, she would pause briefly, straighten her aching back, close her eyes and utter silent prayers.  She noted at the end of her life: “In great troubles and losses, God is very Good.”

In the midst of her very busy writing and pioneering, Catharine never neglected her family.  As Charlotte Grey put it, “Motherhood came as naturally to Catharine as breathing.  It was the most meaningful activity in her life.  She was always prepared to give more love than she took, and she saw no conflict between her family and her impulse to write.”

My prayer is that every mother reading this article would receive that same strength as Catharine Parr Traill in the challenges of life.

The Rev. Dr. Ed Hird, BSW, MDiv, DMin

-previously published in the North Shore News/Deep Cove Crier

-award-winning author of the book Battle for the Soul of Canada

“I’m afraid there’s been an accident…”

12bdf6ff-3021-4e73-bccd-bc919398d1a0-7068-0000031133e7b4d9Sandy Brown and her family have just moved to Spokane, Washington where her husband, Scott, is pastoring a new church. With a fresh start, Sandy is determined to devote more time to her four children. But, within weeks of settling in their new life, the Brown family is plunged into turmoil.

Sandy receives shocking news that her children aren’t safe, which brings back haunting memories of the trauma she experienced as a girl. Then, the unthinkable happens…

A brutal attack puts Sandy on the brink of losing everything she’s loved. Her faith in God and the family she cherishes are pushed to the ultimate limit.

Is healing possible when so many loved ones are hurt? Are miracles really possible through the power of prayer? Can life return to the way it was before?

Blue Sky reveals how a mother’s most basic instinct isn’t for survival… but for family.

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-Click to check out our marriage book For Better For Worse: discovering the keys to a lasting relationship on Amazon. You can even read the first two chapters for free to see if the book speaks to you.

-The sequel book Restoring Health: body, mind and spirit is available online with Amazon.com in both paperback and ebook form.  Dr. JI Packer wrote the foreword, saying “I heartily commend what he has written.” The book focuses on strengthening a new generation of healthy leaders. Drawing on examples from Titus’ healthy leadership in the pirate island of Crete, it shows how we can embrace a holistically healthy life.

In Canada, Amazon.ca has the book available in paperback and ebook. It is also posted on Amazon UK (paperback and ebook), Amazon France (paperback and ebook), and Amazon Germany (paperback and ebook).

Restoring Health is also available online on Barnes and Noble in both paperback and Nook/ebook form.  Nook gives a sample of the book to read online.

Indigo also offers the paperback and the Kobo ebook version.  You can also obtain it through ITunes as an IBook.

To receive a signed copy within North America, just etransfer at ed_hird@telus.net, giving your address. Cheques are also acceptable.

-Click to purchase the Companion Bible Study by Jan Cox (for the Battle of the Soul of Canada) in both paperback and Kindle on Amazon.com and Amazon.ca 

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The ‘Dangers’ of Listening to Women

Ed_Jan2By the Rev. Dr. Ed Hird

 

Most  men are ‘experts’ on women, until we marry one. Experience can be rather humbling to our most treasured pre-conceptions.

Flowers are, by far, the most popular gift that men like to give to women, followed by chocolates, candies, and other such delicacies. But perhaps the most valuable and most dangerous gift that we can give the women in our lives is the gift of listening.

confusedHeartfelt, non-critical listening is a rare phenomenon in our fast-paced, analytical culture. Listening takes time. Listening takes energy. Listening takes courage. To be honest, it often seems a lot easier just to give them chocolates. Most of us as men know that we need to grow in the area of listening.

The most offensive thing about listening is how helpless it can make us feel. Very few of us as men either like to feel weak or admit our weaknesses. Despite the male consciousness-raising of the last thirty years, such radical vulnerability does not come easy.

I well remember the first year of our marriage as a great time. My wife however has somewhat different memories…‘little things’ like our living on a shoe-string budget so that we could go on vacation in Europe, and my spending all my time studying for my Master’s Degree.

Years later, she finally told me that the first year wasn’t a bed of roses. I said: “Why didn’twife of your youth you tell me?” “Well, Ed”, she said, “You weren’t listening”. Sadly, she was right. One of the dangers of listening to women is that we just might hear something that we don’t want to hear. Our equilibrium may be so unsettled that it will take us quite a while to recover.

The key women in our lives usually have a remarkable ability to impact our sense of inner calm, in a way that our male acquaintances rarely do. When a male upsets another man, we often just ‘write them off’ and carry on. But when a key woman ‘gets under our skin’, we have to deal with it, or our life begins to shrink.

One of the key signs of a man going through a marriage breakup is the radical energy loss, and the consequent impact on his work. As men, we are usually so ‘thick’ that when a marriage breakup hits us, we rarely see it coming. It’s like being hit by a Mac Truck. So many men say: “I had no idea”. Exactly. More than any other offense, the action that most drives our wives to the Courts (and I don’t mean ‘tennis’) is our unwillingness to listen.

laceheartAnother danger of listening to women is that we might have to change. None of us like being controlled. We certainly don’t like being treated like children by the key women in our lives. Sometimes we confuse our fear of change with our fear of being controlled. Without change, there is no growth. Without change, there is no future. I have found that if I am willing to change the things that I can change (which is me), then the rest of life begins to make more sense.

The famous A.A. Serenity prayer asks God for the serenity to accept the things that we cannot change ( which includes anyone else, especially the women in our lives). When we finally wake up and realize that women are ‘unfixable’ (that is, by us), then we can stop trying to change them, and start actually listening. Genuine listening to women can be unnerving, because to listen is to change.

Most of us as men have an amazing ability to Channel Changerblock out parts of conversations that make us feel uncomfortable. Ever wonder why women get so irritated with us, as so many men are forever flicking on the TV channel changer. This filtering ability can make men look like their memories are extremely selective. As the old saying goes, the problem with men is that they never remember, and the problem with women is that they never forget.

I remember when a former secretary in another city came up to me and courageously shared some concerns with me about our work environment. My ‘walls’ were down that day, and so I actually heard what she was saying. I said to her, “Why have you taken so long to tell me?” She said, “Because until now you would have never listened. You would have just explained it away.” I felt stunned and challenged. Here I was, a trained Social Worker and Priest, and I couldn’t even see my own ‘walls’.

The Good Book says that our hearts are deceitful, and that no one can really understand them. (Jeremiah 17:9) We have an amazing ability to fool ourselves. Have you noticed how often we judge our spouses by planktheir actions, and ourselves by our good intentions. That is why Jesus challenged each of us to first remove the log from our eyes, before we try to do surgery on the splinter in someone else’s eye.

Courageous listening  is choosing to remove that log of defensiveness, and actually give the women in our lives our full, uncompromised attention. I have found that my wife is virtually always right even when she is wrong. She, and most other women, have a God-given intuitive ability that functions like a radar system in discerning basic truth. Sometimes she can’t even tell me why she is feeling so uncomfortable about some area, but in hindsight, my listening to her has saved me a lot of grief. That doesn’t mean that she is always right on all the details, but she usually intuitively grasps the core of issues.

That is why the famous author Gary Smalley says that every woman has a built-in marriage manual, if we men would only have the courage to listen and not reject It has taken me a long time to fully benefit from this ‘dangerous’ gift of my wife.

Have you ever wondered why Jesus after his resurrection turned up to women first? Perhaps it’s because women are so spiritually open. No one in that 1st century culture listened to women, except Jesus. So Jesus, after rising again, broke all the rules and showed up to rejected, despised, ignored women. Did the male disciples initially believeempty_large the women when they shared about the risen Jesus? Not in your life. Like so many of us men today, they wrote off the women’s stories as “old wives’ tales”.

I pray that we men may have the courage to listen to the stories of women, especially their stories of Jesus’ love.

The Rev. Dr. Ed Hird, BSW, MDiv, DMin

-author of the award-winning Battle for the Soul of Canada

-previously published in the North Shore News/Deep Cove Crier

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12bdf6ff-3021-4e73-bccd-bc919398d1a0-7068-0000031133e7b4d9Sandy Brown and her family have just moved to Spokane, Washington where her husband, Scott, is pastoring a new church. With a fresh start, Sandy is determined to devote more time to her four children. But, within weeks of settling in their new life, the Brown family is plunged into turmoil.

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